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Talking with the Receptionist, Pausing When You Speak and Other Secrets of Leadership Success

Published: August 22, 2007 in Knowledge@Wharton
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Several years ago, while visiting a regional branch of Lee Hecht Harrison, a global career management services company, then-president Stephen Harrison was stopped short by "Ray," his chief operating officer. "You didn't greet the receptionist," said Ray, who proceeded to show Harrison how to do what he called the "two minute schmooze." Introducing himself, Ray inquired about the receptionist's commute and impressions of the company. 

Ray explained to Harrison: "A receptionist is a corporate concierge. They will talk to more important people in a day -- suppliers, customers, even CEOs -- than you will talk to all year."

Enron-level scandals are not averted by talking to the receptionist alone, but Harrison, speaking at the recent 11th annual Wharton Leadership Conference, contended that small acts like this are part of what makes for an ethical corporate culture. And culture, not "heavy handed legislation" like the 2002 Sarbanes-Oxley Act, is a key safeguard against moral lapses, he said in his talk.

Also presenting at the conference, which centered on the theme of "Developing Leadership Talent," was Richard Greene, a public speaking coach and author of the book, Words that Shook the World: 100 Years of Unforgettable Speeches and Events. Conference sponsors included the Center for Leadership and Change Management, the Center for Human Resources and Wharton Executive Education.

Executive Pomposity

Harrison, who is now chairman of Lee Hecht Harrison, pointed to the failure of Sarbanes-Oxley to stop incidences of corporate fraud and misconduct. He quoted a 2005 PricewaterhouseCoopers survey that reported a 22% increase in global fraud over the last two years. When the Federal Sentencing Commission discovered this gap between intention and results, said Harrison, it held a year of hearings and then added one line to the Federal Sentencing Guidelines stating that public companies must "promote an organizational culture that encourages ethical conduct."

Shortly after this addition was made, Harrison was appointed Worldwide Chief Ethics and Compliance Officer of Lee Hecht Harrison's parent company, Adecco, a position he held for two years and one that is mandated for publicly traded companies complying with Sarbanes-Oxley. He, along with other newly appointed ethics and compliance officers, wanted to know: What does "ethical culture" mean to the Federal Reserve Board? Harrison spoke with Federal Reserve Board officials and attended conferences where board members addressed the issue.

"All of us had pens in hand, waiting for the answer. They couldn't give it to us," Harrison recalled. "So I decided I would dig into this myself." What he concluded mirrors the words of former SEC Commissioner Cynthia Glassman, who said that while the government can mandate ethical compliance, "we cannot legislate ethical behavior." For Harrison, even the word "ethics" itself seems too abstract; he replaces it with what he sees as a more intuitive, common-sense word: decency.

"Decency is not just about being nice," noted Harrison, author of The Manager's Book of Decencies. Rather, it is about creating a "bubble wrap" of good deeds that will protect a company in hard times. "Our willingness to be decent at work cannot depend on whether business is up or whether we're in a bad mood or whether it's raining. Decencies don't amount to anything unless we take the trouble to make them come alive through concrete acts in all kinds of weather."  

For those at the top, this can mean such actions as being the first to volunteer for ethics training; honoring those with unglamorous jobs, like office cleaning; and listening to people at all levels of the organization. He pointed to the example of Herb Baum, former CEO of Dial, who used to host "Hot Dogs with Herb" on the factory floor, where he invited employees to talk with him about anything on their minds.

Being accessible is as important as being humble, said Harrison. "Remember Ed Koch?" The former mayor of New York, in his second year in office, drove from borough to borough, asking people, "How am I doing?" "He went from being well-liked to well-loved." Harrison also recalled meeting up one night with a long-lost college roommate, Ruben Mark, chairman and CEO of Colgate Palmolive. Over a Japanese dinner, Harrison asked him how he explained his success. "He leaned across the table and said, 'That's easy. I make absolutely sure nothing creative or important is ever identified as my idea,'" said Harrison. "Now that's humility."

He also counseled executives to avoid the trap of "executive pomposity." He first heard that term in a 1967 speech from the CEO of Technico, who spoke specifically about executive "telephone pomposity." Said Harrison: "I have answered my own phone since then."

Being generous with praise and recognition will earn leaders what Harrison calls "psychic income." He gave the example of the chairman and CEO of Campbell Soup who "at the end of every day gathers his people to hear about neat stuff done that day and then handwrites thank-you notes to the people who did it. If you go around Campbell Soup, all over the world, you will find those notes framed."

A key test of a leader's sensitivity comes at layoff time. While Western companies, and particularly American companies, have come to accept the reality of the need for layoffs, "what they should not come to terms with is a downsizing episode that is anything but sensitive, well thought out and has preserving personal dignity as the highest priority," Harrison said.

Immediately after layoffs take place, for example, a leader should be "very visible and accessible," ready to answer questions, reduce anxieties and even assuage the guilt of those who survive the layoffs. "It takes courage to put your chest out, shoulders back, and be there to deal with this. It's a decency, and people will appreciate it."

At the end of the day, said Harrison, the words of poet Maya Angelou ring true: "People will forget what you said, they will even forget what you did, but they will never forget what you made them feel."

Leading with Your Voice

As public speaking coach Richard Greene knows, however, a few unique individuals are able to combine words and feelings in stirring, almost miraculous ways. "I would rather hear Martin Luther King read the Philadelphia White Pages out loud than hear almost anyone in corporate America deliver the 'I have a dream' speech," said Greene during his presentation.

While King had natural gifts that only a chosen few possess, Greene argued that most people have never been trained in public speaking, in part because the subject is not usually taught in schools. "It's a mechanical process and every single employee, with a little bit of intention, focus and time spent, can learn a new skill set. They haven't had a chance to see how good they can be," said Greene.

The first task of a speaker is to realize his or her purpose in speaking, whether it involves addressing several prospective customers across a boardroom table or a convention of thousands. "Public speaking is nothing more than having a conversation about something you're passionate about with two or more people, while you just happen to be standing up, or not," said Greene, who has advised CEOs of Fortune 500 companies and coached presidents, prime ministers, and, in 1996, Diana, Princess of Wales.  

One of the biggest pitfalls for speakers in a corporate communication setting is perceiving a speech or presentation as a performance. "It's easy to get nervous and think, 'I want them to know how smart I am and how much I know,'" said Greene. "But if it's just about downloading data, then stay home, hit the send button and save everyone's time and expense."

The best communicators have understood that public speaking is not a performance; it's about making a connection with others, said Greene. "What did Franklin Roosevelt call his weekly radio addresses? Not 'fireside speeches' but 'fireside chats.' He understood that this new technology -- radio -- could be a way to connect with people."

Greene, who began his career as a lawyer, became intrigued by public speaking after watching motivational speaker Tony Robbins. "His ability to work a crowd is unparalleled and I learned a lot from him. I also decided it would be much more fun to do what he was doing, rather than what I was doing, which was being his lawyer."

During the 2000 presidential election, Greene advised Al Gore's campaign to let the then-Democratic nominee speak about environmental issues, but his advice was brushed off by the vice president's campaign on the basis that "no one cares about the environment." "What was missing from Gore in 2000 was a sense of human passion and authenticity. It doesn't matter what you think of global warming: What matters is you see that he believes in something passionately," he said.

Authenticity can help convince an audience that you are bringing something unique to the table, said Greene. "When you're trying to market an idea or product or service, you have to answer two questions the customer has, which are: 'What makes you unique, as compared to your competitors? And how can your uniqueness benefit me?'" 

Greene offered some practical tips, including the observation that "the difference between a good speaker and a great speaker is the pause." He recited a piece of the famous King speech: "He said, 'I have a dream' -- pause, pause, pause -- 'that one day' -- pause, pause, pause -- 'this nation will rise up….' He didn't just run it all together, one word after another."

Other simple tools of the trade include making eye contact with audience members even in a large room, establishing a casual relationship by walking in front of a podium rather than standing behind it, and varying voice tone and rhythm. "This is all low-hanging fruit," said Greene, meaning that with a little training, most speakers can improve in these areas.

Of course some public speaking skills are the result of natural gifts, Greene acknowledged, and voice resonance is one of those gifts. Former CBS News anchorman Walter Cronkite won the nation's trust in part because of his deep, full voice, said Greene; on the flip side, Democratic presidential nominee Hubert Humphrey lost the 1968 election in part because his voice was high-pitched and even grating.

As for the current presidential race, Greene predicted that Mitt Romney would win the Republican nomination and Barack Obama the Democratic because both are strong communicators. "There is a continuum of great speakers. Where you are on this continuum is pretty much where you are in terms of overall effectiveness."

He attributes Obama's rapid political rise to the skill of his keynote address at the 2004 Democratic National Convention. "It didn't sound like a normal political speech. He spoke from a place of pure nakedness, as if he were saying, 'I'm not even giving a speech; let's just connect.'"  

While disparaging an older generation of public speaking advice that recommended viewing audience members in their underwear, Greene offered a different kind of advice that can be summed up in four words: "It's not about you." Referring again to Martin Luther King, Greene said, "He had this ability to reach inside his heart and soul and just bring out what was there. What he cared about at every moment was just getting his message across. He wasn't worrying about how he looked."

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Total Comments: 17

#1   

"It's not about you" - I think that these 4 words sum up the entire article. Leadership is about being there for others, talking to them, listening to them and being of service to them. Wonderful article.
By: Kiran Kumar,
Sent: 05:31 AM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#2    Leading with Your Voice

As a public speaker on such topics as Guerrilla Marketing, Professional Selling Skills, Customer Experience Management and Trade Showmanship, I found your tips to be 'right on'. It's all about the listener....the 'WIFFM'. This is also true when it comes to written communication, something that many authors totally overlook.
By: Vicki Lynne Morgan, Russmor Marketing Group
Sent: 07:28 AM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#3    Leadership

Good piece, great advice. Leadership has always been about connecting with people through passion driven by commitment, even in difficult times and in difficult decisions.
By: Phil Lyon, ALCOS, Inc./ VP Commercial Insurance
Sent: 08:36 AM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#4    Ladership Success

I do agree with the article. I was taught public speaking while in the military. I believe I possess a "natural" ability but the training I learned was very effective in giving me direction, purpose and meaning. I taught classes to higher ranking officers and enlisted. Sometimes, I was the lowest ranking person in the room. That did not deter me from being genuine in what I was teaching. You must know your subject matter to a higher degree so you will have confidence in what you are presenting.
By: Paul Kelly, Abacus Financial Co. President
Sent: 08:55 AM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#5    Talking With The Receptionist

Many years ago, I recognized that the receptionist is a firm's first point of contact with callers and visitors. I equipped the work area with top of the line amenities; hired for personality, grace and poise; provided very competitive salaries and benefits, including a wardrobe allowance upon hiring and a monthly wardrobe allowance thereafter. This rationale was extended throughout the ranks - to building security personnel, for example. This spawned other appreciation efforts and programs, pursuant to which we caught people doing something more than was expected of them and rewarded it. I am very, very pleased to see the concept is gaining some visibility. Our workplaces need a revival of civility from the factory floor to the CEO's corner office. Corporate America has become too small and mean; this is inconsistent with our great heritage. Or so I believe.
By: Geoffrey L. Fiszel, Morgan Stanley
Sent: 08:59 AM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#6    Leading with your voice

Excellent article. Very much appreciate the comments on voice, and would add that humility needs to be genuinely from the heart. Otherwise, the behavior falls short, and people (including your receptionist) eventually know it's a show. Pro 29:23 A man's pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.
By: Robert Cannon, Higher Education Vice President
Sent: 11:30 AM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#7    Leadership

"You manage objects; You lead people." This simple military axiom has been handed down to junior leaders for centuries and it's applicable to us as corporate leaders today. If this becomes part of our character, we will show it to others in our actions and, we lead by example to those who are watching us.
By: M. Jeffery Tyler, Kaplan University Graduate School of Management
Sent: 12:26 PM Thu Aug.23.2007 - -

#8    Decency and Leadership

Great article. The corporate world needs a lot of decency nowadays. I think it is one of those things that are not taught in college.
By: Manuel Munoz, Archdiocese of Detroit
Sent: 12:43 PM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#9    Leadership

...in my view....leadership is:

The ability to inspire people to such an extent that they're willing to commit a perception of self-sacrifice -- the late nights, long week-ends, and overall hard times. Leadership can make these things happen, and then demonstrate to the staff, through words or actions, that the perception was in fact an investment in themselves and the organization. I'm always reminded of George Patton marching 3rd Army across Europe. Only a real leader could have pulled that off.
By: Louis Murphy, EMC Australia / Principal Consultant
Sent: 07:59 PM Thu Aug.23.2007 - US

#10    every word

Every now and then there's an article that really hits home. Every word of this one made absolute sense. Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew, but gets lost in the mix of the everyday push and pull of running a business. This was an important re-connect.
By: katy lesser, healthy living natural foods market
Sent: 10:06 AM Fri Aug.24.2007 - US

#11    leadership

Decency, humility, passion, authenticity, pomposity, empathy to others' feelings and people's connectivity -- all attributes well brought out. It reminds me of Peter Drucker's words: everything can be learned except the character which an individual has to bring along with himself.
By: Jagadish Ayyagari, individual
Sent: 01:21 PM Fri Aug.24.2007 - US

#12    The personality of leadership

It's interesting that the authors need to present the idea of decency. It planted a seed for me to think if there is a way to create a corporate decency measurement in my market research?

I agree with the article, but shake my head when remembering managers that had poor communication and presentation skills, yet still got promoted. I feel the work place has changed as a result the corporate scandals and SOX. C-level is not as rarified by the ranks as it used to be.

From the article, we should consider leadership as not your title or your place on the org chart. It is about how you choose to present yourself in all aspects of your life. It is about your ability to develop relationships. If you don't have an extroverted personality and want to improve your presentation and social skills, please consider a local Toastmasters chapter. It has been key for my development.
By: Kelly Drow, SRP/Senior Analyst
Sent: 02:29 PM Fri Aug.24.2007 - US

#13    Leadership

I've always seen leadership as the ability to communicate a motivating purpose, while creating a sense of worth to others. If you understand the impact of nearly every word or action, it's probably the most difficult wire to walk in management.
By: Bill Stanfill, Simclar/Project Director
Sent: 07:17 PM Sun Aug.26.2007 - -

#14    Leadership Success

Seldom do I read an entire article word for word, but I found this article so "right on" that I forwarded it to several of my coworkers. However, the phrase "two minute schmooze" to me connotes insincerity. Most people have an inherent sense for understanding one's motives. Deliver fresh flowers or present a gift card to a favorite restaurant or department store. Most times, actions speak louder than words!
By: Marcy DeLozier, ENT of Georgia, Credentialing and Contracting
Sent: 11:38 AM Tue Aug.28.2007 - US

#15    Ethical Treatment

A philosophical theory says that "man should not be treated as means to an end, but rather as ends in themselves." Well I think that decency in the workplace is a must. Companies should recognize the value of propriety.
By: Mark Joseph Morales,
Sent: 11:22 PM Sat Sep.01.2007 - PH

#16    Don't forget the dark side

Great article, but I think it is wise to remember that those who speak with great passion can just as easily be from the dark side. Mr. Green's comment, "He had this ability to reach inside his heart and soul and just bring out what was there. What he cared about at every moment was just getting his message across. He wasn't worrying about how he looked," could, unfortunately, apply just as easily to Hitler as to Dr. King.
By: Miki Saxon, LeadershipTurn/Blogger
Sent: 04:20 PM Tue Sep.04.2007 - US

#17    Leadership

Nice article. I was reminded of Stephen Covey's "Character Ethic" Vs. "Personality Ethic" thoughts. What is permanent in any leader is the character ethic - humility, integrity, honesty, etc.

Along with these characteristics, a true leader should be able to listen, empathize, and respond...
By: Mahesh Reddy, iBPO
Sent: 05:20 PM Sat Sep.22.2007 - IN
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